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J.L.W's avatar

I don't respond to "actual images". I can see pictures of mutilated children and whatnot and there is simply no response from my mind. No emotion. There has been a very vague response once or twice with animals. Quite a lot of the moral highgrounding on twitter recently. "You should watch the videos of x or the images of y to support my position" and I'm thinking: "You want to bet on that, champ?" I recall in my political degree going through detailed reports of genocides while eating dinner and not being phased.

I get what you are saying though about the confused sociology of those with unexamined lives. However, I have no naivety or delusions that have been challenged during this period. One thing that I have thought about recently, thought about quite a bit actually, is envy and jealousy. It is something that I do not experience or at least, that I do not experience to an extent that troubles me. I would like to play guitar like Damian Salazar; and now I am balding I saw a women with lovely hair on a youtube video the other day.

But the crab in a bucket mentality of people and their jealousy has been a little weird for me in my life. As I have said here before I have a disability (physical and invisible) that was previously very deleterious to me and has recently got better with technology. So my life was pretty bad in the past due to this disability subtly undermining me. I had no idea why I was so unproductive and got so stressed. I was not self aware.

But even in that broken state people, and I'm mostly talking about guys, were extremely unpleasant due to jealousy. I get so much pushback when I talk about the gym and it's like, from me to them... "If you want to go to the gym just go to the gym what is the issue?" Another one is just any little positive thing I have. Intelligence or creativity. I once tried to talk to a so called musician, a co worker, about scales, guitar scales, and he got angry at me "I'm not the kind of person that practices scales"... Wait... What?

I know, I can identify that ex friends of mine feel jealousy as a passionate all consuming emotion. I can identify when someone is deliberately doing this to another to cause pain and I can undo this by revealing things held back; things like, "that guy got buff through steroids". But I can't understand it or get any real insight into it. Beyond the structural understanding of "that is jealousy".

It seems that this war is going to escalate and we will likely see a lot of behaviour from people that would not have been revealed in quieter times. Should be interesting. But I don't think it will be that unpredictable.

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Thank you for your perspective, as always, Athena. I have noticed this trend for a long time, each time stressful world events polarize people. Instead of responding with compassion, or a desire to reach understanding, people lash out. It happens in the U.S. over polarizing topics such as racism, LGBTQIA+ issues, gun policy, abortion, social programs, etc. It happened during Obama’s presidency. It happened during the pandemic. It happened during Trump’s presidency. And it’s happening now.

In every case, people behave as if anyone that doesn’t agree with them is The Enemy. Anyone that transgresses their non-universal sets of rules (as well as those who do transgress universal sets of rules) is The Enemy. They also act as if anyone that they have deemed The Enemy has become irredeemable and should at best be stripped of all autonomy and freedoms, and at worst, killed. This scorched earth approach baffles me, especially because of the inherent hypocrisy. An integral part of the human condition is both our limitless capacity for making errors of judgment, and our equally limitless capacity for growth and change. If such an extreme response were to be applied in reality, rather than in theory, there would be nobody left standing.

The answer is painfully simple (painful because it requires more of people than they seem willing to give)- acknowledge that behavior should be addressed on its own merits and don’t “cancel” someone when they behave badly. Acknowledge that differences of beliefs and values exist, and that those differences can be valuable rather than a threat. If instead, we behaved rationally, with rules and guidelines that address unwanted behavior with appropriate consequences and boundaries (i.e. let the punishment fit the crime), our society would actually begin to heal and improve. But in the current social climate, wise voices are drowned out and silenced with ridicule and malice. Understanding isn’t the goal for most; instead the goal seems to be elimination of dissent.

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