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Yes. It’s an arrogance that is rooted in their poor self-esteem. Only a confident person is comfortable accepting what they know and what they don’t know—or who they are and who they are not—as you express about your own sense of self. All antisocial behavior among neurotypicals is rooted in their self-loathing or poor sense of self. Psychopaths are the exceptions. As you explain so clearly, psychopaths who display anti-social behavior are driven by their unobstructed desire to seek pleasure.

Humans evolved to seek emotional and physiological comfort, but ALSO to never be satiated. That’s how we survive—we keep wanting more and more. The reason addiction is such a crisis in the human population is that addition is still a very effective way survival mechanism—it’s the people addicted to creating things, discovering things, impacting others that keep civilization moving forward. But we have yet to find ways to generate the drive we need to keep going without the destructive effects of that same drive—which is revealed in all the destructive addictions that temporarily make the pain less painful. The need for instant gratification is strong.

Would you say that you lack the fight-flight response (sometimes referred to as an amygdala hijack) that originated as a very effective warning of imminent danger when humans were still living in the wild? That primitive survival mechanism, when not appropriate for the actual level of danger one faces, is ABSOLUTELY miserable. In fact, being put into that uncontrollable physiological response is what I fear most in life. I take meds (Zoloft) to control it as much as possible—and I am very grateful for the relief it offers.

The addictive nature of neurotypical humans is also reflected in their choice to fabricate a sense of hope any way they can (religious beliefs are a major form of fabricated hope and so is a belief in free will)—EVEN if it means enduring the fears. I’m worn out from the fears but I am still resisting letting go of hope; I don’t know how to move forward without it.

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My guess is that “distrustful self-alliance” is a belief that you must do everything for yourself because others are not to be trusted. For instance, anti-vaxxers distrust doctors and the government so much so that they believe they can make a safer, more sensible decision about whether or not to be vaccinated than tens of thousands of doctors and scientists who have been hyper-focused on the study of vaccines for decades.

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