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Invisigoth's avatar

The number of things that cause physical revulsion in people astonishes me. Take cleaning, I know people who will talk about things being 'filthy' and I see nothing but some dust. I reserve the term filth for stuff like the time the septic tank backed up while I was doing laundry and the toilet erupted. Now THAT was filthy and no amount of dust and clutter qualifies.

But then maybe I'm just strange.

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Yvonne Federowicz's avatar

Good article! This is indeed a very useful skill.

Some of us can do too much of this decoupling for our long-term health, though. Autistics who "mask" are often decoupling underlying emotions from our behavior; unlike psychopaths, we generally can have very strong emotions that also have to be decoupled from behavior in many situations to behave like an NT (for instance, if we are in sensory pain in a situation that does not cause NTs pain and have to do that every day with no opportunity to get emotional support from those NTs either on it; if we are having to tolerate social uncertainty in situations that NTs just "get" but also we have to keep focusing upon acting NT; lots of other things). NT society does not let up on its requirements of NT-appropriate behavior, so we can feel we have to mask (honest) reponses to very aversive situations to us, for long long periods.

I think doing that too much is part of why I've had "burnout" periods; if there is not actual cheerfulness, actual positive feedback for us, underneath the "correct behavior", some deep part gets very drained for me. My inner motivation sort of rebels, and movement turns to glue - but it's not clinical depression. This may make no sense to many people.

There is just starting to be some research on "autistic burnout" but like most actually useful research on adult autistics, it only started a few years ago and is mostly NOT done by U.S. scientists. (With a handful of exceptions, and those exceptions are not known to most clinicians.)

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