I was talking about a friendship that was really difficult to maintain, painful, lots of control/abuse type things.
She said "What are you getting out of this friendship?" I said "Huh? You aren't supposed to get anything, that's wrong, it's what you give them".
Gosh, that sounds dumb now. But we had to talk through how everyone has needs and we become friends, or more, to satisfy those needs. That there is a purpose to it.
Therefore, if the friendship is more pain than affection, it should be ended.
And how much better life is without that kind of "friend".
That is a surprising thing for a psychologist to say. Aren't they supposed to be about helping to build the healthiest version of the person that they are working with? A lot of that is boundary establishment and self protection.
Yeah I get that. It's just how we were for all sorts of bad reasons. It's ALL about the other person, we think. Crazy stuff. Hang in there, you'll get to a better place and a better perspective. And it's hit-and-miss with therapists. Some are lovely, some are contemptible.
It is very strange. Usually question deletion happens in only a couple of situations.
1. The person who asked the question decides to delete it. I may be wrong about this, but I think that the only time they can delete it is when there aren't any answers to the question, and it should an option for that user to reestablish the question if they choose to.
2. Moderation deletes it for some reason. Either the account gets banned, and all of their content is removed, or the question itself is a violation. I was able to backtrack the asker of the question, and this appears to have been what happened. Moderation stated as the reason:
"Your account has been banned because it has been found to violate Quora's multiple account policy."
Which is very strange, since they removed that rule when they took away the anonymous questions and answers.
Someone told me that the question was deleted by moderation, so I went and checked. It was, and that makes no sense to me, as the question itself is not inflammatory or abusive.
I was able to track the account back who asked it, and it was banned for violating the multiple account policy, which makes no sense, because Quora got rid of that feature.
I thought they were asking whether you would make any sacrifices, whether you are in only for a sunny day, or also for rainy day. That's how I understood the questions. Which you answered with burning of world while focusing on falacy of selflessness.
But helluva good dive into reciprocality and neccesity of action.
It took a psychologist to explain this to me.
I was talking about a friendship that was really difficult to maintain, painful, lots of control/abuse type things.
She said "What are you getting out of this friendship?" I said "Huh? You aren't supposed to get anything, that's wrong, it's what you give them".
Gosh, that sounds dumb now. But we had to talk through how everyone has needs and we become friends, or more, to satisfy those needs. That there is a purpose to it.
Therefore, if the friendship is more pain than affection, it should be ended.
And how much better life is without that kind of "friend".
That is a surprising thing for a psychologist to say. Aren't they supposed to be about helping to build the healthiest version of the person that they are working with? A lot of that is boundary establishment and self protection.
Yeah I get that. It's just how we were for all sorts of bad reasons. It's ALL about the other person, we think. Crazy stuff. Hang in there, you'll get to a better place and a better perspective. And it's hit-and-miss with therapists. Some are lovely, some are contemptible.
Friends with a rock -- awesome concept.
I saw you replied to my comment on that post and I was so confused when nothing showed up. Weird...
It is very strange. Usually question deletion happens in only a couple of situations.
1. The person who asked the question decides to delete it. I may be wrong about this, but I think that the only time they can delete it is when there aren't any answers to the question, and it should an option for that user to reestablish the question if they choose to.
2. Moderation deletes it for some reason. Either the account gets banned, and all of their content is removed, or the question itself is a violation. I was able to backtrack the asker of the question, and this appears to have been what happened. Moderation stated as the reason:
"Your account has been banned because it has been found to violate Quora's multiple account policy."
Which is very strange, since they removed that rule when they took away the anonymous questions and answers.
I read it on Qura.
Someone told me that the question was deleted by moderation, so I went and checked. It was, and that makes no sense to me, as the question itself is not inflammatory or abusive.
Strange, I didn't see anything wrong with it.
I was able to track the account back who asked it, and it was banned for violating the multiple account policy, which makes no sense, because Quora got rid of that feature.
Strange
I thought they were asking whether you would make any sacrifices, whether you are in only for a sunny day, or also for rainy day. That's how I understood the questions. Which you answered with burning of world while focusing on falacy of selflessness.
But helluva good dive into reciprocality and neccesity of action.
It's really interesting. I prefer to read text write by people involved by "something" than by some "pseudo-expert "
Same
Makes sense. This is definitely one of the reasons being friends with a psychopath would be very difficult for most.