I'm reading this and it's like I wrote it, I do this all the time whether it's wait staff or support for my cable service and about anything else I do.
This post is fantastic and validates my findings as well. I am not always able to carry it off, but find having a kinder and friendlier attitude provides for a more amicable and helpful exchange. We both, then have a "win/win" experience. You have put into words the way I aim to treat others. It is always good to read or hear when others agree about human nature and how to navigate with a positive environment being the goal! ! ! ! ! 🙏 🙏🙏
Thank you for writing this; it makes sense to me, largely I feel it's in the realm of what I've learned for "masking". (That's what most social stuff is for me!)
I think I might tend to avoid people who don't treat me well, or be otherwise "nonpresent" if I cannot completely avoid them; this strategy choice might be related to what worked best for me in the past, as well as sometimes not having the sense that I totally understand why someone might be being a jerk. In the rare instances of a jerk being totally "in my face", the emotional techniques I learned in martial arts classes help me. (I'm no black belt but learned a lot of other stuff about humans there.)
I found much of this useful. I've got some work experience in customer service, so have been on both sides of the fence. Will bear in mind and thank you for sharing.
Yes, this is absolutely the way everyone should live, and it makes sense both from a personal gratification point of view AND a general moral sense. However, it needs to be noted that earnest, well-meaning people differ greatly in their levels of physical beauty and personal charm/charisma. A highly moral plain old awkward person is unlikley to get these whizz bang rewards. Not disagreeing with what you're saying, just pointing this out. People, do this anyway, but reset your expectations.
Thanks for the great post! This is definitely my favorite post of yours (close tied with "Tip the scales in your favour"). I always find the advice you give to be very applicable to my own life.
I'm reading this and it's like I wrote it, I do this all the time whether it's wait staff or support for my cable service and about anything else I do.
This post is fantastic and validates my findings as well. I am not always able to carry it off, but find having a kinder and friendlier attitude provides for a more amicable and helpful exchange. We both, then have a "win/win" experience. You have put into words the way I aim to treat others. It is always good to read or hear when others agree about human nature and how to navigate with a positive environment being the goal! ! ! ! ! 🙏 🙏🙏
This eloquence is perfection. Lessons useful to all under any circumstance. Thank you for a lovely inspiring break from a day of toil.
Thank you for writing this; it makes sense to me, largely I feel it's in the realm of what I've learned for "masking". (That's what most social stuff is for me!)
I think I might tend to avoid people who don't treat me well, or be otherwise "nonpresent" if I cannot completely avoid them; this strategy choice might be related to what worked best for me in the past, as well as sometimes not having the sense that I totally understand why someone might be being a jerk. In the rare instances of a jerk being totally "in my face", the emotional techniques I learned in martial arts classes help me. (I'm no black belt but learned a lot of other stuff about humans there.)
I found much of this useful. I've got some work experience in customer service, so have been on both sides of the fence. Will bear in mind and thank you for sharing.
Yes, this is absolutely the way everyone should live, and it makes sense both from a personal gratification point of view AND a general moral sense. However, it needs to be noted that earnest, well-meaning people differ greatly in their levels of physical beauty and personal charm/charisma. A highly moral plain old awkward person is unlikley to get these whizz bang rewards. Not disagreeing with what you're saying, just pointing this out. People, do this anyway, but reset your expectations.
What do you mean by ‘table camp?’
Thanks for the great post! This is definitely my favorite post of yours (close tied with "Tip the scales in your favour"). I always find the advice you give to be very applicable to my own life.
Athena, is there any chance that you would engage on a (paid) consultation to have your perspective regarding a matter?