Since there are people bringing up different aspects of NT experience compared to the psychopath I remember the first time that I was really confronted with the possibility of not being NT. My college roommate was a Church of Christ preacher and he was writing a sermon/tract touting the superiority of the "conviction of the Holy Spirit" vs "Having a conscious", and I realized that despite having been a regular church goer for the 18 years of my life I had no clue as to what he was talking about.
A few years later when I was married my now ex wife would attempt to throw my past misdeeds at me it cause a guilt trip and I'd frequently laugh as I never felt any remorse, guilt or shame at anything she tried to use.
Something I've never gotten about some of the online test is that they'll ask if you think that someone "deserved" whatever I may have done and the fact is that I've never really considered it when I've done something. I did what I did for my own reasons
I find a lot of the checklists and tests are created from the perspective of what neurotypicals think, instead of how the world is actually viewed through the eyes of a psychopath.
Repetitive posts from Quora shouldn’t bother your readers here, since it shouldn’t be a big deal to just stop reading a post, etc. It is very obvious that you care about what you’re doing here, and I think that’s great. I apologize for promising to come back to a topic after thinking on it, and not finding the time to do so, as life is very complicated for me right now.
I did mention I would like to know about how you experience humour. Intellectually, we can find things funny, but as we laugh, hormones are secreted, chemicals that give us joy just from smiling. Some therapists, as I’m sure you know, even advocate practicing smiling in a mirror in an effort to “fake it until you make it” (that one I find ridiculous, but it may work for some, although I could never suggest it, or do it because I find it condescending or disingenuous). Considering your brain structure is different, and I assume your chemistry (oxytocin for one) is also, I wonder how you experience humour; if there are different levels of it, etc.
I also appreciate that it must be very difficult to describe something compared to something you’ve never experienced firsthand. I think you do a great job of it, and although difficult, you are successful in helping the NT look into the way your mind/brain works. It is quite a feat, and I hope you can feel some sort of pride or satisfaction from it.
Oh, that's interesting, and I am glad you clarified. That will be an interesting thing to explore in a post, because to me, something amusing me or being funny is just that event. The feelings don't, nor do they need to extend to other aspects of my day, so I have never considered thinking of it that way.
Neurotypicals, at least of average IQ and above, often concern themselves with the topic of meaning In their life.
Escaping the mindless hedonic treadmill, they wonder what it’s all for, what matters most of all, beyond the satisfaction of their hedonistic or egotistical desires.
Do psychopaths find themselves within that metaframe of experience?
If so, what matters in the big picture of things to a psychopath?
I have written about this before, so likely I will port my response over from Quora. Basically I am here to live well, not long, and I am not concerned with what comes next. I'll find out when I get there... or not.
I personally see no issue here, this isn't Qura, this is your place to write. I would say to those who are annoyed to just get over it. But that's just me. Repeating information is too be expected here as you write, and isn't annoying to me, if I can see I've read it before, I just skip it. If I have questions I'll ask. Simple, easy, write on.
Thank you for recognizing that some of us are just now finding you and don't have the benefit of familiarity with your posts on Quora. As someone who only found you a week ago, I am bouncing between Substack Eye of the Storm and Quora...trying to get sort of caught up... Was only familiar with the more easily found writing of ... (sorry, I understand your POV) but yes, Dr. Hare. And (quickly, she wrote) finding you, I am so very glad to get a more balanced perspective on a much bigger world.
Since there are people bringing up different aspects of NT experience compared to the psychopath I remember the first time that I was really confronted with the possibility of not being NT. My college roommate was a Church of Christ preacher and he was writing a sermon/tract touting the superiority of the "conviction of the Holy Spirit" vs "Having a conscious", and I realized that despite having been a regular church goer for the 18 years of my life I had no clue as to what he was talking about.
A few years later when I was married my now ex wife would attempt to throw my past misdeeds at me it cause a guilt trip and I'd frequently laugh as I never felt any remorse, guilt or shame at anything she tried to use.
Something I've never gotten about some of the online test is that they'll ask if you think that someone "deserved" whatever I may have done and the fact is that I've never really considered it when I've done something. I did what I did for my own reasons
I find a lot of the checklists and tests are created from the perspective of what neurotypicals think, instead of how the world is actually viewed through the eyes of a psychopath.
Repetitive posts from Quora shouldn’t bother your readers here, since it shouldn’t be a big deal to just stop reading a post, etc. It is very obvious that you care about what you’re doing here, and I think that’s great. I apologize for promising to come back to a topic after thinking on it, and not finding the time to do so, as life is very complicated for me right now.
I did mention I would like to know about how you experience humour. Intellectually, we can find things funny, but as we laugh, hormones are secreted, chemicals that give us joy just from smiling. Some therapists, as I’m sure you know, even advocate practicing smiling in a mirror in an effort to “fake it until you make it” (that one I find ridiculous, but it may work for some, although I could never suggest it, or do it because I find it condescending or disingenuous). Considering your brain structure is different, and I assume your chemistry (oxytocin for one) is also, I wonder how you experience humour; if there are different levels of it, etc.
I also appreciate that it must be very difficult to describe something compared to something you’ve never experienced firsthand. I think you do a great job of it, and although difficult, you are successful in helping the NT look into the way your mind/brain works. It is quite a feat, and I hope you can feel some sort of pride or satisfaction from it.
Oh, that's interesting, and I am glad you clarified. That will be an interesting thing to explore in a post, because to me, something amusing me or being funny is just that event. The feelings don't, nor do they need to extend to other aspects of my day, so I have never considered thinking of it that way.
Topic : Going meta
Neurotypicals, at least of average IQ and above, often concern themselves with the topic of meaning In their life.
Escaping the mindless hedonic treadmill, they wonder what it’s all for, what matters most of all, beyond the satisfaction of their hedonistic or egotistical desires.
Do psychopaths find themselves within that metaframe of experience?
If so, what matters in the big picture of things to a psychopath?
I have written about this before, so likely I will port my response over from Quora. Basically I am here to live well, not long, and I am not concerned with what comes next. I'll find out when I get there... or not.
Thinking of a question that hasn’t been asked.
Topic: Influence
What might a neurotypical pick up artist learn from a psychopaths frame of reference, that would be useful?
No idea, pick up artists aren't particularly interesting to me, so I am not familiar with their process.
I appreciate it. This is your space. You do whatever you do with it. We're just sitting in it.
I personally see no issue here, this isn't Qura, this is your place to write. I would say to those who are annoyed to just get over it. But that's just me. Repeating information is too be expected here as you write, and isn't annoying to me, if I can see I've read it before, I just skip it. If I have questions I'll ask. Simple, easy, write on.
Yes, write on!
Thank you for recognizing that some of us are just now finding you and don't have the benefit of familiarity with your posts on Quora. As someone who only found you a week ago, I am bouncing between Substack Eye of the Storm and Quora...trying to get sort of caught up... Was only familiar with the more easily found writing of ... (sorry, I understand your POV) but yes, Dr. Hare. And (quickly, she wrote) finding you, I am so very glad to get a more balanced perspective on a much bigger world.
Welcome, if you have any questions, let me know
Totally understandable. Think this is fair enough.